Monday 7 November 2011

Is this how arranged marriages work???!!!


If the girl is at one corner of the world...
The boy would be at another...
Not just geographically...
But also emotionally and mentally.


The girl's and boy's family would be keen to see their respective kids married. They will first write prepare their birth chart. Then, in spite of their kid's tears and plea, they start circulating it among relatives and close friends. If the parents are really desperate, they may even publish in marriage portals, newspapers and magazines!!!


The outcome would be loads of birth charts from other desperate family of the girls or the boys, as the case may be.

Wait...
The process is not yet over...

Now, the parents will take their child's (Mind you.... it is still "Child" that is used!!) and all the available best matches to a leading astrologer. He will do some calculations based on the Sun and the nine planets.

If he gives green signal, the parents will proceed to their child. They'll show the photos (If at all there are options) and that will lead to the first embarrassing situation...

The "Ponnu Paakkal"(That means the event where the boy's family would go to the girl's house to meet each other!!)


The girl will be all dressed up...
As if she is a model for some textile shop or a jewellery. She would asked to walk towards the boy's family and wish them.

She would still be at HER HOME. Yet she would be feeling crap. Her house would be conquered by strangers. She would wonder within - Where she should look? Whether she should talk? If yes, what? Should she smile? Or just stay expressionless? 

Then, the parents may (not always though) mutually agree that the "Children" need to talk in private. Thus, they would go; for the 15-30 minutes endeavor.

After a few awkward moments, they settle down.
Then they would stare distractedly.
Later, they may glare at each other.
If they (Mind you, "If they") feel comfortable, they would start sharing their likes and dislikes. 
They would chat like pals do. 

Time up!!
Parents would call them off...
And that is it!!!
They would have made up their mind too...

This is how arranged marriages work.
Unbelievable. 
Unbelievable that how two strangers understand that they can lead an entire life together.

The parents will be happy for their children...
The children would be happy that teir found their perfect mate...
And the entire family would be happy because it is not a "love marriage"

Ultimately...
ALL IZZ WELL!!!

Now...
What made me think so hard and come up with this post??
Interestingly, I happened to read an article.
It astounded me.
According to the psychiatrists, it takes less than 4 minutes for someone to decide if he are in love!!


The two eyes' of two people should meet and they should look into it deeply. Subsequently, if they feel that the other person is worthy enough, they may share about them. later, if they still feel comfortable with each other, if they fee that the other person is ready to lend an ear to him...

That is it...
Love blooms!!!

May be...
This is how arranged marriages work!!!

May be...
This is how they live happily ever after!!!

2 comments:

  1. Dear Locomente... I jus wanna share some of my views on the matter posted by you... Apart from the view that you have shared... On the word of mouth from the so called "mind magicians", the psychiatrists, what i would like to share with you, is something which had struck ma mind many a times... Whenever i had thoughts on the above matter...(Dear friend, i think, the 'topic of discussion' today is something which repeatedly strikes many of our minds) Ok... Something which I had personally felt for what could be the reason for an ARRANGED MARRIAGE always being successful(though there are exceptions)is the freshness it has during the post-marriage tenure... The ones who get married would start knowing each others' likes and dislikes, may be after years(Its not a joke!!!)... They live in a total wonderland at-least for the first few years... Once they start knowing each other thoroughly, years might have passed... Responsibilities might have flooded... So???? No chance for the post-marriage breakup which is termed as "DIVORCE"... So the arranged marriages will continue to have their credit label until the world ends..."Happily ever after"... Good job... :)

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  2. Of course...
    That is an important reason too...
    But... What makes you decide to get married?
    There are many... then why that "someone"??
    That is where the psychology plays its role I guess....

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