Why we Shout in Anger?

I am famous for losing my temper. But, I have always reverted back saying that I can control as well. Off late, I have actually heard people who know me for years saying that I have started controlling my anger. I believe that is the best of compliments I have got in my life. Yet, last five days has been madness. I say this because I lost my cool innumerous times! 

At times, losing cool is all we can do. Life can frustrate at times. At times, the World and people around can frustrate us too. But, last five days were magical. It was as though everyone, people I know and I don’t know were aiming at proving my cool. 

Some words hurt me… And I replied back with anger. How else can I respond? I am not a Mahatma. I am just another human being. I have shades of black. And I bet that I am certainly not white! Words can be like a sword dipped in poison. I agree that words cannot kill people; but they certainly can kill their feelings. So, there I was losing my temper because my loved ones didn’t understand me. 

Those few words made me so pissed off that I picked fight with random strangers. They also behaved as if the purpose of their life was arguing with me. I yelled at all of them and I lost the tranquility. Silence lost its serenity and I knew I was acting like a crank. 

But then, people losing their temper are no different from animals. They lose sensibility and their thinking capability goes down the graph. A super-silent person would also end up shrilling at the pitch of his voice. They may use swear words which they otherwise think is bad. 

Then I wondered, "Why We Shout In Anger". It was now that came across one story. This I read somewhere… 

A Hindu saint saw a bunch of family members shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked, “Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?”

One of his disciples said, “We shout because we lose our calm.”

“But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner”, asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples. 

Finally the saint explained, “When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...”

The saint continued, “When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper 'n they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other 'n that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.”

He looked at his disciples and said, “So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.” 

And… This post is dedicated to a one person whom I love the most. I have never seen her loose her temper and I curse myself for not being like her. That person is none other than my mother and today is her Birthday. So here I am saying, “HAPPY BIRTHDAY AMMAJI”!!!! J