A dear friend always says, “You should learn to live with the choices you made/make”.
Do we truly have control over situations? Do we ever get to choose what we want? Don’t you think that it is only an illusion that we are making conscious choice?
On a philosophical note, I believe that everything is preplanned.
To quote William Shakespeare:
· “All the world’s is a stage, and all the men and women merely players”.
· “The whole world - theater, and the people in it – the actors”
I strongly believe that our life is preplanned and we are merely executing the plan. We have no control over people we meet or the situations we get into.
Then, about what choice is my friend referring? And do we really don’t have control over life? Are we mere puppets? Actors?
Well, I have an answer…
We can choose how we want to feel. Mind you, how we react or respond is also not under our control. But, we control how we should feel about a situation.
We can choose to be happy, sad, bitter, regretful, guilty, vengeance, anger, and what not!
However, if we understand that we have no control over our life or the way others would respond to us, life would become easier.
Always ask, “How do I like to feel?” OR “How do I want to feel?”
Mind you, we all like to be happy. So, the answer would always be – “I want/like to feel happy”
And that’s all… However bad a situation is and in whatever bad way people respond to you, you choose to be happy. Life becomes a celebration!
I know this is not easy. But this is not impossible. When something bad happens choose to believe that something good will follow. When loved ones hurt you, choose to think about the good times you had with them. When someone hurts you, you choose to think about the loved ones in your life.
And, as a last resort, if there is nothing good to think about, just think about you. Ask are you happy? If the answer is no, tell yourself that you will never leave you. You may not believe me, but that simple five words would change the way you feel. Suddenly, you feel secure.
In short, never think you are unlucky… or you have no one in your life… or you are alone… or no one loves you… or everything is going wrong. Instead tell yourself the following three mantra. If possible tell this to yourself everyday (Or many times a day):
1. I have no control over my life, situations or people’s response
2. Regardless of what happens in life or how people respond, I will never leave myself. I am there for me!
3. And I choose to be happy…! J
So let’s all CHOOSE to be happy!