Wednesday, 1 July 2015

What is LOVE?

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f you have watched Indian movies, most of them would have the same clichéd ending. The hero would be heartily loving the heroine. He would try to make the heroine understand his love. For that he would go to all the possible extremes – following her relentlessly and talking sweetly.... Showering her with love and son on.
But, the heroine would remain stubborn. She would never accept the proposal. Days would pass by. Most of the times, several months and years would also pass. The hero’s love would pass the test of time and the heroine continues to remain stubborn. Although, the hero’s determination and love would have won the heroine’s heart, she would never admit it – call it ego, uncertainty or even immaturity.

Then, either of the two scenarios would follow:
Scenario 1:
Heroine’s parents find a nice boy for the heroine. Or the heroine herself would fall in love with some other nicer boy. Their weddings will be fixed. On the day of wedding, heroine would realize that she is in love with the hero and breaks the wedding! Then, the hero and the heroine would live happily ever after; at least we assume so!

Scenario 2:
Hero would succumb to the parental pressure, friend’s advice and his own loneliness. He would finally decide to get married to another girl. It would have been a tough decision, yet he would have taken it for the sake of his “other” loved ones. The heroine would come to know about this and breaks into several figments. She would plead the hero to break the wedding and would also promise that she would never hurt him again - NEVER. Both of them cry in joy. They decide to marry. Then, the hero and the heroine would live happily ever after; at least we hope so!

Now tell me dear readers, what is this fuss all about? Why does the heroine (it can also be hero depending on the situations) not realize the love when there was ample time. Why did they want to complicate everything?  I fail to imagine how the “other” person to whom the hero/heroine is formally engaged would feel. What about his/her dreams and future? His/her family?

I always wonder what LOVE is.
Is it just an over-hyped four lettered word, I ask you.
Why does it complicate life? Kill the happiness and burn you in the fire of uncertainty?
On the other hand, why does it gift you with unbound happiness and make you feel blessed?

When love for parents, family and friends are a way of life – which adds colors to the canvas called life… the quest for the soul mate and falling in love with the right person in a romantic way… Commit to that person and build several branches of relationship calls for courage and much more.

When there are loving people, we take them for granted. We assume that they would stay like that forever. We believe that they would be there for us, no matter what! We never think about a possibility of that loved one leaving us, do we?

26 comments:

  1. What is Love? Love means never having to say you're sorry. (Author:Eric Segal. Book: Love Story.)

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  2. Because we don't count our blessings, we are very ungrateful that way. Most of us are.

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  3. Love is a pure emotion as long as it's illogical. When we apply logic to it, we are 'selecting' and not 'loving'. These cases (99%) are akin to arranged marriages.

    Destination Infinity

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  4. The way these heroes pursue their heroines, its srsly stalking and harassment, don't you think so?
    As far as love is concerned, for me, love is being there for some one no matter what happens... Bcz this feeling that there is some one right next to you forever and you are not alone in this world is huge!!! Enough to lead you to the ladder of success and happyness :-)
    Love is everything :-)

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    1. Really... I dont understand on what basis the heroine fall for such men!
      And, I liked your definition of love... Simple and so true..

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    2. Seriously if a man does anything close to what heroes do on-screen, I would have him reported in a police station. Its way too creepy!!!

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    3. Oops! I so totally agree with you.

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  5. Well none of the Bollywood stories make sense anyway so I won't be analysing it further. :) But to be frank the uncertain and immature portrayal of heroines really irk me. If you have watched Arrow or Flash series, the character of girls is just so annoying!!

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    1. I have not watched that series and after hearing you, i doubt if I would...
      I echo your words too :)

      Thanks!

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  6. The scenarios you described are required for the movies- to make it a 120 or 150 minutes thamsha.
    As for why we do not realise love, well some do, some do not.Can there be an answer? I doubt.

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    1. There is no answer.. Thats why LOVE becomes even more interesting and enigmatic!

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  7. Hi Loco mente, You are so right ... LOVE has so many different meanings. An interesting post here that puts me in the contemplative mood. Thank you!

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    1. Thanks sir...
      Happy that you liked it :)

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  8. I honestly feel that Bollywood (or the type of films you mentioned, in any language) is setting a very wrong example for the new generation on the path of finding 'love' or 'soulmate.' Different ways work for different people. Some are doing fine with arranged marriages and some with 'finding love' and marrying someone. But, I very deeply think that a man who loves a woman respects her for being attractive instead of just wanting her physically (like all movies show - something that is terribly wrong).

    Well, a story is just a story. It need not preach a principle precisely.

    What I have figured out from life is that love is when you don't think twice to give up/do something for the person you love 'without expecting returns'. And to love back is when you ALWAYS appreciate the person for being in your life. This is the mantra for 'staying' in relationship/love even as years pass by and the spring is long gone.

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    1. Really Sun.. The movies and books can leave lasting impression in our minds... Especially during the growing up years. Such notions would be etched in our heart and unknowingly, we would think like those characters we have read/see in movie. It might not be preachy, but they kind of affect us... A boy and girl cannot be friends... Girls love only rich guys... You can be unemployed and confused or rowdy, but if your love is good, the heroine will fall for u...Parents always disapprove love.... Love happens only once in life... To name a few

      I loved your perspective about love... Looks real and true!

      Thanks :)

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  9. Nice version of love,Satya..True, after a lot of hindrances it fails or succeeds(the love between the lover and love).

    You wrote a nice comment on my last post. Got deleted by mistake.Retrieval trial didn't succeed. Sorry for that.

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    1. Ah! Thats okay... such technical things always happen...
      Thanks Rudra :)

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  10. I think love is something we cannot define or could compensate with anything, but only feel about.

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    1. True love can be that way :)
      Thanks Jeevan :)

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